Comments for Full of Hate and Ready to Date (Blog) http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog How to attract, seduce, and date beautiful women without feeling ignored, rejected, or angry. Mon, 30 Jan 2012 23:29:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Question: Girlfriend Vs Bang Buddy? by Quacky http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/questions-girlfriend-vs-bang-buddy/comment-page-1/#comment-2684 Quacky Mon, 30 Jan 2012 23:29:14 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=3700#comment-2684 Excellent advice as always! I want a guy to have fun with me but also respect me because I know I'm worth being a girlfriend and not just a hook up. Plus I've realised I don't need to HAVE sex with a guy to BE sexy to them. Excellent advice as always! I want a guy to have fun with me but also respect me because I know I’m worth being a girlfriend and not just a hook up. Plus I’ve realised I don’t need to HAVE sex with a guy to BE sexy to them.

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons “Nice Guys” Finish Last by Robby http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/10-reasons-nice-guys-finish-last/comment-page-1/#comment-2632 Robby Tue, 17 Jan 2012 15:01:14 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=569#comment-2632 That's fantastic! Have fun! :) That’s fantastic! Have fun! :)

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons “Nice Guys” Finish Last by Fred http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/10-reasons-nice-guys-finish-last/comment-page-1/#comment-2631 Fred Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:36:08 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=569#comment-2631 I understand, Robby, and you're perfectly right. Give and take is the name of the game. Scratch my back I'll scratch yours and so on... As for being alone, that's never been a problem for me, I've always enjoyed solitude, it builds character and has allowed my creative side to flourish. But even that is soon to be of the past: I'm getting married in a few months. Yep, this one's getting hitched, I've finally found a woman worth my efforts and my time after 20 years of fooling around. Love is not dead, guys, it just has a very distinct knock and you have to recognize it and be able to open the door when it does knock. Good luck to all and be safe in your meetings. I understand, Robby, and you’re perfectly right. Give and take is the name of the game. Scratch my back I’ll scratch yours and so on…
As for being alone, that’s never been a problem for me, I’ve always enjoyed solitude, it builds character and has allowed my creative side to flourish.
But even that is soon to be of the past: I’m getting married in a few months. Yep, this one’s getting hitched, I’ve finally found a woman worth my efforts and my time after 20 years of fooling around.
Love is not dead, guys, it just has a very distinct knock and you have to recognize it and be able to open the door when it does knock.
Good luck to all and be safe in your meetings.

]]> Comment on Question: What does he really want? by Robby http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/question-what-does-he-really-want/comment-page-1/#comment-2629 Robby Tue, 17 Jan 2012 12:19:28 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=1967#comment-2629 This isn't a "him" problem (he seems happy doing what he's doing...) this is a YOU problem. For some reason you don't like hooking up with a guy who then chases other women? That's so strange... (I'm being sarcastic.) Here's the problem. He's just not that into you. And you don't seem to want to see that. Instead you're likely making up excuses for him in the hopes that he'll suddenly realize how awesome you REALLY are. Well, here's the truth. You ARE wonderful, but he's NEVER going to care. Because he's already decided how he feels about you, and he's showing you. He's showing you with his actions that you're good enough to sleep with but not good enough to be with exclusively. Any guy that's REALLY into a girl stops talking to all other women in an effort to get that ONE special girl. You deserve to be that ONE SPECIAL girl, so go out and meet a guy who treats you that way, and stop chasing dreams that will never pan out. You deserve it! :) This isn’t a “him” problem (he seems happy doing what he’s doing…) this is a YOU problem. For some reason you don’t like hooking up with a guy who then chases other women? That’s so strange… (I’m being sarcastic.)

Here’s the problem. He’s just not that into you. And you don’t seem to want to see that. Instead you’re likely making up excuses for him in the hopes that he’ll suddenly realize how awesome you REALLY are.

Well, here’s the truth. You ARE wonderful, but he’s NEVER going to care. Because he’s already decided how he feels about you, and he’s showing you. He’s showing you with his actions that you’re good enough to sleep with but not good enough to be with exclusively.

Any guy that’s REALLY into a girl stops talking to all other women in an effort to get that ONE special girl.

You deserve to be that ONE SPECIAL girl, so go out and meet a guy who treats you that way, and stop chasing dreams that will never pan out.

You deserve it! :)

]]> Comment on Question: Dealing With A Long-Term Breakup And Jealousy by Robby http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/question-dealing-with-a-long-term-breakup-and-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-2628 Robby Tue, 17 Jan 2012 12:15:43 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=1879#comment-2628 I guess the best thing you can do now is sit back and have some perspective... this is a step too many adults skip. Sitting back and thinking through what happened to you is how you grow and mature as a woman. Some people like to sit back and feel angry or justified or scorned. These are people without perspective. There's 3 BIG mindsets that have made my life very satisfying, especially in a situation like yours. Here they are: 1) Always be honest, even when it hurts. (Sometimes silence is enough... but it's a waste of energy to make up lies.) 2) Always realize that what other people do has nothing to do with you. So don't take things personally. 3) Don't make assumptions. It's too easy to make the wrong assumptions about others. In your case I think you took his "lies and rejection" personally. This is obviously a mistake. He wasn't "rejecting you" ... he was simply being a selfish dude who wanted all the attention from all the girls. He's the jerk. But taking it personally is a mistake. That's your immature ego fighting to be heard and fighting to be right. Don't let it. Acknowledge that wasting your time on his was painful, but it wasn't your fault. Looking back was there any RED FLAGS you were ignoring? If you can learn from this you'll be able to spot this type of guy again before you start dating him. And acting out angrily is another childish response. Obviously it doesn't solve anything and only makes you look like a fool, which is embarrassing. It doesn't teach him a lesson and doesn't' help you get a better man in the future. All it does is nurture the child side of your emotions. And it's your emotions that you shouldn't be letting call the shots... that's what children do. These are situations that help you gain wisdom and knowledge.. so pay attention to this event. The best response would have been to disappear from his life leaving him confused and upset. Next time don't give him the satisfaction of seeing you upset. Take some time to be alone now, reconnect with friends and loved ones, and rest until you're no longer hurt or guarded. Then get out there and meet someone more worth your time! I guess the best thing you can do now is sit back and have some perspective… this is a step too many adults skip. Sitting back and thinking through what happened to you is how you grow and mature as a woman.

Some people like to sit back and feel angry or justified or scorned. These are people without perspective.

There’s 3 BIG mindsets that have made my life very satisfying, especially in a situation like yours.

Here they are:

1) Always be honest, even when it hurts. (Sometimes silence is enough… but it’s a waste of energy to make up lies.)
2) Always realize that what other people do has nothing to do with you. So don’t take things personally.
3) Don’t make assumptions. It’s too easy to make the wrong assumptions about others.

In your case I think you took his “lies and rejection” personally. This is obviously a mistake. He wasn’t “rejecting you” … he was simply being a selfish dude who wanted all the attention from all the girls. He’s the jerk. But taking it personally is a mistake. That’s your immature ego fighting to be heard and fighting to be right. Don’t let it. Acknowledge that wasting your time on his was painful, but it wasn’t your fault. Looking back was there any RED FLAGS you were ignoring? If you can learn from this you’ll be able to spot this type of guy again before you start dating him.

And acting out angrily is another childish response. Obviously it doesn’t solve anything and only makes you look like a fool, which is embarrassing. It doesn’t teach him a lesson and doesn’t’ help you get a better man in the future. All it does is nurture the child side of your emotions. And it’s your emotions that you shouldn’t be letting call the shots… that’s what children do. These are situations that help you gain wisdom and knowledge.. so pay attention to this event. The best response would have been to disappear from his life leaving him confused and upset. Next time don’t give him the satisfaction of seeing you upset.

Take some time to be alone now, reconnect with friends and loved ones, and rest until you’re no longer hurt or guarded. Then get out there and meet someone more worth your time!

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons “Nice Guys” Finish Last by Robby http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/10-reasons-nice-guys-finish-last/comment-page-1/#comment-2627 Robby Tue, 17 Jan 2012 12:06:33 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=569#comment-2627 Amazing comment, thanks Fred! I might warn you that being selfish is another way we let the world control us... when we react to the outside world by blocking them out emotionally we might be keeping ourselves safe, but ultimately it leaves us alone and guarded. Don't stay too jaded about your past... there is a fun healthy balance of selfishness and selflessness that FEELS good. There's also a surprising satisfaction we feel when we GIVE instead of TAKE. I believe love, for example, is something we can only feel when we GIVE it. That's why women can be creeped out by stalkers... because these women don't love their stalkers back. What's my point? I've forgotten. Thanks for the comment! Amazing comment, thanks Fred!

I might warn you that being selfish is another way we let the world control us… when we react to the outside world by blocking them out emotionally we might be keeping ourselves safe, but ultimately it leaves us alone and guarded. Don’t stay too jaded about your past… there is a fun healthy balance of selfishness and selflessness that FEELS good.

There’s also a surprising satisfaction we feel when we GIVE instead of TAKE. I believe love, for example, is something we can only feel when we GIVE it. That’s why women can be creeped out by stalkers… because these women don’t love their stalkers back.

What’s my point? I’ve forgotten. Thanks for the comment!

]]> Comment on 10 Reasons “Nice Guys” Finish Last by Fred http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/10-reasons-nice-guys-finish-last/comment-page-1/#comment-2626 Fred Tue, 17 Jan 2012 10:39:41 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=569#comment-2626 I agree with just about every points you've made, Robby. I'm the "bad boy" you constantly talk about, I can't help it, I like women and I love sex but I also love myself enough to know that no one is going to love ME more or better than MYSELF. (Yes, I can be selfish, and it's my prerogative). It took some hard work to undo all the traumas I suffered in childhood and my youth experiences have taught me that we are born ALONE and we die ALONE, no woman is going to change that. I will not write about what women want or the way they are because every woman is different and I suspect that more than half of them don't even know what they want, it's our 'job' as guys to help them make up their mind by being honest about what we want and what we're about. My advice? Love YOURSELF and you won't need a woman to do it for you, she'll need you to do it for her ;) I agree with just about every points you’ve made, Robby. I’m the “bad boy” you constantly talk about, I can’t help it, I like women and I love sex but I also love myself enough to know that no one is going to love ME more or better than MYSELF. (Yes, I can be selfish, and it’s my prerogative). It took some hard work to undo all the traumas I suffered in childhood and my youth experiences have taught me that we are born ALONE and we die ALONE, no woman is going to change that.
I will not write about what women want or the way they are because every woman is different and I suspect that more than half of them don’t even know what they want, it’s our ‘job’ as guys to help them make up their mind by being honest about what we want and what we’re about.
My advice?
Love YOURSELF and you won’t need a woman to do it for you, she’ll need you to do it for her ;)

]]> Comment on Question: Dealing With A Long-Term Breakup And Jealousy by Shay Ellis http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/question-dealing-with-a-long-term-breakup-and-jealousy/comment-page-1/#comment-2624 Shay Ellis Mon, 16 Jan 2012 23:44:34 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=1879#comment-2624 Your Comments I busted my guy back windows out of his house because he had another chic over there who he broke up with and we been in and out of this relationship for two years. I don't know whats going on with him. I have been there for him when he got sick and had some heart problems going on. I have bee checking on him and taking good care of him making sure he's eating right. Then all of sudden this chic comes over. I goes over to see what's going on. He would not let me in. I felt betrayal. I was knocking on the door for a least 30 minutes. He treated me like i never existed and we were together earlier that day. I even heard him having sex with that young girl. So i threw a brick at his back window. He wouldn't come to the door. So i did it again. He didn't press charges against me. But i feel guilty and now i know he's not coming back to me. What should I do. Your Comments I busted my guy back windows out of his house because he had another chic over there who he broke up with and we been in and out of this relationship for two years. I don’t know whats going on with him. I have been there for him when he got sick and had some heart problems going on. I have bee checking on him and taking good care of him making sure he’s eating right. Then all of sudden this chic comes over. I goes over to see what’s going on. He would not let me in. I felt betrayal. I was knocking on the door for a least 30 minutes. He treated me like i never existed and we were together earlier that day. I even heard him having sex with that young girl. So i threw a brick at his back window. He wouldn’t come to the door. So i did it again. He didn’t press charges against me. But i feel guilty and now i know he’s not coming back to me. What should I do.

]]> Comment on Question: What does he really want? by Allissa http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/question-what-does-he-really-want/comment-page-1/#comment-2621 Allissa Mon, 16 Jan 2012 05:25:56 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=1967#comment-2621 Im Confused, I have known this guy for a very long time, since we was 8 we have been very close ever since,we talked for along time but never where in a relationship, we stopped talking & both were engaged & in a relationship for 4 years,we both broke the engagements off around the same time & then we started talking back, idk what he wants,we hooked up a couple of times & have hung out alot together,he told me we are more then friends,but he stopped txting me,so one of my guy friends that was acting like a girl txted him & he has been txting "her" aka he,so he wants to meet her, well he txted me saying he doesnt have his phone alot bc of him hunting but he was lying, What should I do,I am tired of the games with guys been there done that so hurt:( P.S. He told me I couldnt party or anything! but he is??? Help me!!PLZZZZZZZZ!!! Im Confused, I have known this guy for a very long time, since we was 8 we have been very close ever since,we talked for along time but never where in a relationship, we stopped talking & both were engaged & in a relationship for 4 years,we both broke the engagements off around the same time & then we started talking back, idk what he wants,we hooked up a couple of times & have hung out alot together,he told me we are more then friends,but he stopped txting me,so one of my guy friends that was acting like a girl txted him & he has been txting “her” aka he,so he wants to meet her, well he txted me saying he doesnt have his phone alot bc of him hunting but he was lying, What should I do,I am tired of the games with guys been there done that so hurt:( P.S. He told me I couldnt party or anything! but he is??? Help me!!PLZZZZZZZZ!!!

]]> Comment on What if CONFIDENCE is a Scam? by Robby http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/what-if-confidence-is-a-scam/comment-page-1/#comment-2617 Robby Sun, 15 Jan 2012 16:14:00 +0000 http://www.fullofhateandreadytodate.com/blog/?p=22#comment-2617 That's fantastic! I also loved most anything by Anthony Robbins ... he get's into fundamentals of how we humans interpret the world. Pretty deep and interesting stuff. Like this one: http://www.amazon.com/Awaken-Giant-Within-Immediate-Emotional/dp/0671791540/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_1 Eckhart Tolle is awesome: http://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808/ref=pd_sim_b_1 And, of course, anything by David DeAngelo: http://www.amazon.com/Being-Man-Naturally-Attracts-Double/dp/B001IW1MIS/ref=sr_1_12?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1326643983&sr=1-12 That’s fantastic!

I also loved most anything by Anthony Robbins … he get’s into fundamentals of how we humans interpret the world. Pretty deep and interesting stuff.

Like this one: http://www.amazon.com/Awaken-Giant-Within-Immediate-Emotional/dp/0671791540/ref=ntt_at_ep_dpt_1

Eckhart Tolle is awesome: http://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808/ref=pd_sim_b_1

And, of course, anything by David DeAngelo: http://www.amazon.com/Being-Man-Naturally-Attracts-Double/dp/B001IW1MIS/ref=sr_1_12?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1326643983&sr=1-12

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