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Hehe, you’re kinda hard to him at the beginning though that might be due to the use of some words or the phrasing of some sentences…

In the end your point becomes quite clear and you’re right Even i came to accept that i shall be the one asking a girl out if i want to do so.
After all, some risks are worth the shot.

greets from someone you’ve kinda ‘helped’ before

Personally I have wondered about this too, why women don’t initiate and ask guys out.

And I think it stems back to how society has set the manner when it comes to dating and marriage, which of course is the man takes care of everything.

But on another level, as was mentioned above, it is easier for women to find someone because essentially we men want what the women has, and women know they have this advantage.

Love the site Robby, I feel like what advice you have to offer has helped me tons in my life.The response and treatment I get from most women now is astonishing. It actually makes me mad knowing what I know now and what I had no idea of back in high school. It really makes sense, I’ve been working on getting into better shape and then I can’t wait to see the results on that.

Fantastic comment! You’re hired!

Thanks for the comments Andrew. Although I still disagree that women have it “easier” (being born pretty isn’t as easy as you might think… ask 80% of the women who aren’t, or the 95% who don’t think they are) but you make a good point about confidence being a mental thing!

The reality is that great looking men can attract women just as easily as great looking women. The problem is that many men will accept a woman who’s bratty or boring if she’s at least really hot. Where are women expect more from a guy even if he is really hot.

Its because, as a society, we value different things. Men are seeking a woman with great genetics (great tits, ass, and birthing hips) and women are seeking a man with great resources (good genetics help, but social influence brings about great access to resources.) Genetically our pre-modern man ancestors have determined what attracts us unconsciously. We’re animals after all.

Genetically we men want a woman who will give us healthy children. If she’s stupid it doesn’t really matter.

Genetically women want access to resources so that she can comfortably raise her kids and they will be provided for and protected. Your social influence (status, ability to influence others through your words) is how she measures this unconsciously. Your looks don’t play that big a part in this.

So you need to stop complaining that women have it easy (they don’t, especially when you consider the physical dangers they deal with when dating that we never will) and focus more on what YOU can bring to the table. Confidence comes from knowing yourself and having deep rapport with yourself. That comes from healthy internal dialog, and daily experiences of pride and purpose.

~ Robby

When you said that “The problem is that many men will accept a woman who’s bratty or boring if she’s at least really hot. Where are women expect more from a guy even if he is really hot and has 6-pack abs, a GQ Model, etc.” I agree with you, it’s like if a girl is hot, gorgeous, looks like the Kardashian girls, guys will like her already, they will be like, “who cares about her personality? I love her, or like her already” But in the case for guys, us guys need to have more than that.

when you said “That’s not work, that’s fun. Like playing a video game, or eating a yummy breakfast. Next you’ll start to complain that mommy doesn’t wipe your bum anymore, and that nobody is lifting the fork to your mouth when you eat.
Leading a woman into a fun sexual relationship is one of the greatest events life has to offer. I can’t see how you would want to participate even less the you already do.”
You are right and wrong. It’s only fun if the girl is welcoming our advances, if she is not welcoming our advances, then it is not fun.

I’m not afraid to stand up for myself, I will admit that, and those last comments I said, I know you are going to say I am going to risk getting my ass kicked or even killed, but still, it’s better to die with honor than to live with shame and misery. After all, if you look at most animals in the animal kingdom, during the mating season, the male animals duel it out and fight rival males, and the winner of the fight earns the female. I wish Human Society was like that, haha.

When that guy was asking about the reason why do men have to initiate everything with women, and asked as if it is because men are the more dominant and stronger sex, I think I know where he was getting at, because personally I find it very annoying and frustrating when people always say “man up”, “grow some balls”, “grow a pair”, like people and society always say that to men who are afraid or won’t approach a woman and talk to her, when people and society say those sexist quotes, phrases that I mentioned, in a way, it sounds like society is implying that it’s because men are the more dominant and stronger sex, gender. But you said it is because of Chivalry, well when a man does not take charge enough or initiate, take the lead, it’s not always a matter of being scared, it could be just a matter of not knowing how, because “Knowing is Half the Battle”, the other Half is going out there and doing it, taking charge.

Calling a girl Emo is redundant. All feminine women are Emo… which stands for emotional. Therefore “emotional girls” are simply “girls.”

I should also note that I have seen plenty of insecure men getting laid. Maybe it’s because they don’t consider women something they need to “get” as you’ve described it. Relationships are about “relating” and NOT about trying to “get” something from women. Find a way to relate to women and you’ll see that it’s not about her “picking and choosing” and it’s not about you being “rejected or chosen.”

Well that’s a very sad way to see the world.

I once heard this quote and I think it fits your situation:

We don’t see the world the way it is, we see the world the way WE are.

What does this mean? It means that if you’re upset about a past hurt (maybe in your case?) then it’s hard to see the world without that filter of “everything hurts.” Almost like shopping for groceries when you’re hungry… instead of buying the food you need you end up buying anything that looks good… mostly junk food.

I’m curious how you know that “being approached by creepy guys” is easier then being rejected?

You know what? I’ve kinda opened my eyes to something important in what you said…

When women are approached by a lot of guys (creepy or not) they will often internalize it as “I’m high value because all these guys want me.” She will likely take it personally, and the benefit is that she’ll feel kinda good about herself EVEN if she’s annoyed by all the attention.

And in your case, you’re saying that if you approach a lot of girls and they reject you, you will internalize the is as “I’m love value because these girls don’t want me.” You’ll take it personally, and the negative effect is that you’ll feel crumby and of low quality.

What I’ve learned to understand is that it’s not a good thing to take things personally. Obviously. But why and how?

1) If women start to take all this attention they might get from guy’s personally, they’ll be forced to suffer the consequences… their self-esteem will be tied to the approval of others. When they get attention, they feel approved of. When they get older, or lose weight, etc, and they get less attention they will feel rejected. You can’t have on without the other. It’s a mistake for ANYONE to tie their self-esteem to the approval of others. This means it’s a mistake to allow the compliments from others to influence how you feel, just like it’s a mistake to allow the insults of others to influence you.

For example … when a guy approaches a girl on the street because she’s pretty, what is he REALLY doing? Perhaps to her he’s saying, “You’re high value and I want your attention and approval.” And if she takes this personally she might feel powerful and secure. But what’s REALLY happening? He doesn’t even KNOW her yet, so any attention he’s giving her at first is based entirely on her appearance. This is completely superficial and has nothing to do with HER and everything to do with HOW HIS BODY FEELS about her appearance. Should she REALLY take his advances personally? No, because it’s got NOTHING to do with her, and everything to do with his sexual urges. At least at first.

But, let’s look at you. If you approach a girl because you think she’s cute and because she ignores you, what is REALLY happening? If she hasn’t spent a few years REALLY getting to know you, AND she still decides she’s not interested, then she’s not really rejecting YOU, she’s rejecting the energy of the situation. Perhaps she was on her period. Perhaps the chick behind her farted before you walked up. Perhaps her shoes don’t fit right. If she doesn’t know you then how in the world can you possibly take it personally when she’s not interested?

If you’re taking these mini-rejections personally it’s because somewhere in your head you’re deciding that there’s something WRONG with you, but that’s obviously not true at ALL! All that is true is that she wasn’t interested in getting to know you better. Her reasons have nothing to do with YOU personally, and EVERYTHING to do with how she’s feeling.

And trust me when I say this.. there are just as many things that can go RIGHT when you first meet a girl.

The best way to get better at picking up women is to learn how to converse with EVERYONE! A quick trick for talking to beautiful women is learning how to talk to her like she’s just some dude standing in line at the grocery store. And how do you learn how to do that? You need to learn how to take to that dude who’s standing in line behind you at the grocery store. Until you’re open enough to chat with anyone, anywhere, every single day, you’ll never grow that natural ability to chat with hot chicks while remaining super cool and normal.

Hope this helps.

by the way Robby, do you recommend “The Game” by Neil Strauss? personally do you know if it has changed a lot of dude’s lives?

Your opinion is valid and easy for me to relate to. I used to be REALLY full of HATE because I felt so scorned from my dating experiences.

It’s like this… if you’re hungry when you go shopping then buying junk food will seem like a good idea.

And when you’re lonely and jaded it will seem easier to blame women and call them bitches when they don’t want to connect with you.

But the truth is that women are just like men. They don’t want to be around someone who’s trying to “GET” something from them. And when you’re angry, jaded, insecure, jealous, or full of hate, they’ll want to avoid you just like any one else.

But when you learn that women are just people trying to choose the best boyfriend they CAN, and that you’re trying to choose the best girlfriend that YOU can, then you just might cut them some slack.

By the way, it’s not just women who get to choose who their with… we all have that option. Change your Mindset from “trying to be chosen” to “the one doing the choosing” and you’ll find that dating will get a thousand times easier.

Yes. As a guy, if you can’t read what her body is telling you then you’re either being lazy, or you’re socially uncalibrated. It simply takes a little attention to start to notice how a woman’s body tells you everything you need to know about her.