It’s like this… if you’re hungry when you go shopping then buying junk food will seem like a good idea.

And when you’re lonely and jaded it will seem easier to blame women and call them bitches when they don’t want to connect with you.

But the truth is that women are just like men. They don’t want to be around someone who’s trying to “GET” something from them. And when you’re angry, jaded, insecure, jealous, or full of hate, they’ll want to avoid you just like any one else.

But when you learn that women are just people trying to choose the best boyfriend they CAN, and that you’re trying to choose the best girlfriend that YOU can, then you just might cut them some slack.

By the way, it’s not just women who get to choose who their with… we all have that option. Change your Mindset from “trying to be chosen” to “the one doing the choosing” and you’ll find that dating will get a thousand times easier.

When women are approached by a lot of guys (creepy or not) they will often internalize it as “I’m high value because all these guys want me.” She will likely take it personally, and the benefit is that she’ll feel kinda good about herself EVEN if she’s annoyed by all the attention.

And in your case, you’re saying that if you approach a lot of girls and they reject you, you will internalize the is as “I’m love value because these girls don’t want me.” You’ll take it personally, and the negative effect is that you’ll feel crumby and of low quality.

What I’ve learned to understand is that it’s not a good thing to take things personally. Obviously. But why and how?

1) If women start to take all this attention they might get from guy’s personally, they’ll be forced to suffer the consequences… their self-esteem will be tied to the approval of others. When they get attention, they feel approved of. When they get older, or lose weight, etc, and they get less attention they will feel rejected. You can’t have on without the other. It’s a mistake for ANYONE to tie their self-esteem to the approval of others. This means it’s a mistake to allow the compliments from others to influence how you feel, just like it’s a mistake to allow the insults of others to influence you.

For example … when a guy approaches a girl on the street because she’s pretty, what is he REALLY doing? Perhaps to her he’s saying, “You’re high value and I want your attention and approval.” And if she takes this personally she might feel powerful and secure. But what’s REALLY happening? He doesn’t even KNOW her yet, so any attention he’s giving her at first is based entirely on her appearance. This is completely superficial and has nothing to do with HER and everything to do with HOW HIS BODY FEELS about her appearance. Should she REALLY take his advances personally? No, because it’s got NOTHING to do with her, and everything to do with his sexual urges. At least at first.

But, let’s look at you. If you approach a girl because you think she’s cute and because she ignores you, what is REALLY happening? If she hasn’t spent a few years REALLY getting to know you, AND she still decides she’s not interested, then she’s not really rejecting YOU, she’s rejecting the energy of the situation. Perhaps she was on her period. Perhaps the chick behind her farted before you walked up. Perhaps her shoes don’t fit right. If she doesn’t know you then how in the world can you possibly take it personally when she’s not interested?

If you’re taking these mini-rejections personally it’s because somewhere in your head you’re deciding that there’s something WRONG with you, but that’s obviously not true at ALL! All that is true is that she wasn’t interested in getting to know you better. Her reasons have nothing to do with YOU personally, and EVERYTHING to do with how she’s feeling.

And trust me when I say this.. there are just as many things that can go RIGHT when you first meet a girl.

The best way to get better at picking up women is to learn how to converse with EVERYONE! A quick trick for talking to beautiful women is learning how to talk to her like she’s just some dude standing in line at the grocery store. And how do you learn how to do that? You need to learn how to take to that dude who’s standing in line behind you at the grocery store. Until you’re open enough to chat with anyone, anywhere, every single day, you’ll never grow that natural ability to chat with hot chicks while remaining super cool and normal.

Hope this helps.

I once heard this quote and I think it fits your situation:

We don’t see the world the way it is, we see the world the way WE are.

What does this mean? It means that if you’re upset about a past hurt (maybe in your case?) then it’s hard to see the world without that filter of “everything hurts.” Almost like shopping for groceries when you’re hungry… instead of buying the food you need you end up buying anything that looks good… mostly junk food.

I’m curious how you know that “being approached by creepy guys” is easier then being rejected?