Some people like to sit back and feel angry or justified or scorned. These are people without perspective.

There’s 3 BIG mindsets that have made my life very satisfying, especially in a situation like yours.

Here they are:

1) Always be honest, even when it hurts. (Sometimes silence is enough… but it’s a waste of energy to make up lies.)
2) Always realize that what other people do has nothing to do with you. So don’t take things personally.
3) Don’t make assumptions. It’s too easy to make the wrong assumptions about others.

In your case I think you took his “lies and rejection” personally. This is obviously a mistake. He wasn’t “rejecting you” … he was simply being a selfish dude who wanted all the attention from all the girls. He’s the jerk. But taking it personally is a mistake. That’s your immature ego fighting to be heard and fighting to be right. Don’t let it. Acknowledge that wasting your time on his was painful, but it wasn’t your fault. Looking back was there any RED FLAGS you were ignoring? If you can learn from this you’ll be able to spot this type of guy again before you start dating him.

And acting out angrily is another childish response. Obviously it doesn’t solve anything and only makes you look like a fool, which is embarrassing. It doesn’t teach him a lesson and doesn’t’ help you get a better man in the future. All it does is nurture the child side of your emotions. And it’s your emotions that you shouldn’t be letting call the shots… that’s what children do. These are situations that help you gain wisdom and knowledge.. so pay attention to this event. The best response would have been to disappear from his life leaving him confused and upset. Next time don’t give him the satisfaction of seeing you upset.

Take some time to be alone now, reconnect with friends and loved ones, and rest until you’re no longer hurt or guarded. Then get out there and meet someone more worth your time!