Online Dating is EASY for women? (My Experiment)

Here’s what I did:

– I created a fake online profile as a cute Asian girl on the website plentyoffish.com (a website I’ve dated many women through.)

– I posted simple info about my fake self and then waited to see what kind of emails and attention I’d get.

– I let the profile run for only two weeks before taking it down.

– I NEVER replied to any email or comment I ever received.

– I kept copies of the most disturbing emails and comments to share with you.

Why would I do this?

I basically wanted to confirm the rumors: that women get more attention through online dating websites then I ever did, and that they’re forced to deal with some real creepers.

When I was heavily into online dating I was getting a few emails a day, and it took me a few months to build up a “favorites” list. This is a list that basically outlines women on the site who’ve given me their “thumbs up.” It’s a type of online social proof. The more women who pre-approve of me, the better.

Here were my discoveries:

– If you’re a cute girl you will automatically get many more emails than a normal cute guy (I’m the cute guy comparison, so this isn’t necessarily very scientific.)

– Men will often be FAR more direct in their online messages than they would on the street (or so I’m told.)

– The many messages I received during my 2 weeks online as “Jeanine007” started to blur together, each one sounding exactly like the last one.

– I came to realize that if all the men online sounded exactly the same then the only reason I’d click on their profile (as a woman) would be because of their photo.

– Without EVER responding to these guys I still scored on many “favorites” lists. I can’t understand why someone would add a girl to their favorites list without ever talking to her… but my favorites count went from zero to 60 within two weeks.

– Some of the messages I received were COMPLETELY creepy.

– I couldn’t believe how poor the grammar and spelling was in most of the emails I received. Unbelievable! Why do most guys think punctuation doesn’t matter!?

– My eyes were opened to how lame we guys can sound when we act generic, desperate, or needy.

I’ll let you be the judge.

Here is the profile I posted:

I kept it simple and the girl “just cute.”

The Replies

Here are the gems of what this profile received (I won’t include photos of these guys, but you can imagine.) The last one I’ve added was the longest and I’ve chosen not to edit it for your pleasure.

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Holy crap, how cute is she!…. The business of online dating makes me feel desperate, not sure what to make of it. If you make a friend I guess its all worth it. Strange and or beautiful experiences can happen if you do something out of the “NORM” I guess. Drop me a line, say hello, tell me your secrets, run for the hills, or whatever. I’m liberated, sarcastic and fun so tell me a joke or fly to Mexico with me.

Your move.

T

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How are you name is shaynn and friends thought i could use some incentive to start dating again so i thought why not, so i’m on here humoring them. so how are you?

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You are by far the hottest human ever made. I really have never said that to anyone

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Hi,how are you,my name is Alex,i’m single,loyal,never been marred no kids…
i look your pic…i like you you are beautiful girl,i wish to talk with you to know you please…
if you have any Q…feel free to ask me.
hope hear from you soon.
best wishes.
Alex.

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Hi.

My name is Sven & I tragically lost my virginity in a plane crash over Nevada. The other members of my band seem to be missing & I’ve been wandering this desert ever since…

Your cute bum is like a northern star, a golden dessert flower that could light up these skies and return me to a life of bad 80’s covers.

Will you help me to clip my mullet & get back on the radio, jeanine? i promise to put your, ahem, behind a really loud guitar solo.

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wow your so sexy great pics

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hey how are you? you look really cute! im new to this online dating thing.

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well maybe coffe over tea, actully if there’s toast all take the tea lol. drop me a line if u’d like to chat sometime.

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hey sexydoll, what you upto tonite? daaaaaaamn wish i could pleasure your sexiness

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hi are you interested in a sugar daddy

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hey there, i was just checking out the different profiles and yours caught my eye…you might be a keeper…haha…i am just a healthy, active ,nice guy looking to meet a kind hearted girl who has a passion for life and a great sense of humour..i would like us to start as friends so i can get to know you…that way we can both build up that trust level that any good solid friendship should always have if it is worth anything….what do you like to do for fun?……..

Franky

p.s….you seem like a sweety

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hello.
what do i say?..and how do i do this?,cause i felt you seem worth trying a second time.

i guess i should have a template in such manner to save the letters on my key board, as per any sad pick up lines are you shall not have to worry,i dont have any,im lacking wish that department anyway.,

So lets try the honest approch.., im looking for friends. as lame as this sounds -> perhaps your different from most others.

im positivly sure WAY out of my leauge, cause im older and your hotter, But if i might have a chance with your friendship perhaps i might just grow on you enough to make you fall in like with me.

Well. perhaps i should get back pretending to now, may we talk in msn? Im wishing this is easier FOR ME, aswell my flirting is more effective. cause im sure im needing to dig deep to ever be lucky enough to earn holding your hand.

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… I will try to intrigue u more??? I have my profile, yes, but this may provide more insight…

So you’re somewhat of a poet? This will bode well with me as I write a well. I would like to know more about you if you are open to that? Like how would you would describe a perfect relationship? What are you looking for in a man?

So know I will just write a “bit” and hope you find it useful, some of it observations .

You know, I find it highly unfair that if you don’t choose a “Fish Personality”, your only option is “No Personality”, and although I think there are some good options on that drop down list because – indeed – someone is going to judge you on your “fish personality” really? There are clearly some bad ones on that list! I can’t see anyone picking the sea urchin, suckerfish, crab, clam, barnacle Like WHO would choose barnacle or any of these? Basically a barnacle is a shell-like creature that attaches itself to rocks and sucks and feeds off plankton and any other crap that comes along. I like seafood a lot, but the picture one draws from such negative “personalities” is distasteful – I don’t even know what that’s supposed to mean, to another or me. Thus, I chose none “No Personality” than a barnacle or something some one else would choose, as I am one of a kind as would be the person or “fish” that I would swim through life with – weather it be storms or calm waters we swim together as one!

Hmmmm.. you ever notice that while you’re clicking on people, you tend to gravitate towards certain people? So I’ll click on someone, read their profile and don’t think it’d work. Then a little while later, I’ll click on their picture again, recognize them, and think “I’ve already looked at this one!” and then it happens again! You’d think I’d recognize the lady and figure it out, and subsequently stop clicking on their picture! oh well … human nature, GUESS we’re attracted to certain people, and it is a bit out of our control. Ha ha ha!!

Ok .. so I’ve re-read what I wrote in my profile and it looks like I probably didn’t stress enough how much I am a romantic, with quite confidence that is exerted if the situation requires. I am one of a kind that women talk about but I am not sure they really want?! Further, let’s just say I want someone who keeps in shape, I do, it’s not something I just enjoy, it’s my lifestyle so that and laughter are important to me, perhaps you think that makes me one-dimensional but if you think so, then feel free to click on one of the lovely gentlemen thumbnail pictures above.

Further, I’m goal-oriented, self-driven, witty (comes from my English background I guess), don’t take _____, and I basically do what it takes to get there. This also translates to my professional life except it is two working as one. I have learnt a so far if life and I want to learn a lot more and find that love eternal. With my eclectic work experiences has subsequently made me more marketable, who knows maybe this translates into the personal? One does not go without the other. I guess the same can be said about the women I want to meet she wants to grow and learn, open to new experiences. Face it we all want something fantastic and surreal. A relationship where you learn from one another as you hold hands throughout your life together too much to ask? In this day and age one would think so but life is a journey and although it is sometimes scary, I’m loving it!

“The things we do should consume us. If they don’t, our lives won’t have any meaning.” – John J. Kelley

[CAUTION – those who are allergic to laughter, someone being romantic with you, protected, having fun, enjoying life, and loved… just wait.. stop there .. and DO NOT HIT SEND]

hmm. .. perhaps it is best that I take what basically I wrote before in a marketing class… it’s out of context but I think it’s most accurate:

I’m extremely independent and very much “take-charge” kind of guy… an Alpha guy, if you will. I know what I want and I get things done… I have little patience for dilly-dallying. I’m often on the go but I can definitely kick back and enjoy doing nothing and relaxing. Actually, when I do have those occasions, I revel in it. When I’m not doing the usual things… like working, working out, blading, hanging out with friends, I LOVE cooking, playing my guitar, writing, and enjoying a glass or two of whatever… often it’s wine, hence my collection of wines, but what I enjoy most is creating an experience… so whatever suits the meal best, I’m open. I guess you can call me a bit of a foodie. Because of this, I also love trying new restaurants, new cultures, occasionally dressing up to the 9’s for my lady (jumping out of my T’s and jeans face it I wear a suit and tie every day!). I’m pretty open to doing most things… trying new things as long as the company and conversation is good, and often it is, because I’m very picky as far as who I spend my time with, since I tend to have little of it. Of course, I gravitate towards doing active things but I also love going to shows, plays, musicals, theatre, inline skating, gym, football (soccer for the North Americans) etc

Knowing these things, I know the kind of partner that works best for me. I need someone who’s confident, sexy, independent, open-minded, forward, and outspoken. I’m an Alpha guy but I don’t always want to be in charge, things are situational, and that role becomes taxing and tiring so having someone who’s more forward and willing take the reigns works well for me face it you have a brain and thoughts lets go with that too! Having someone take the Alpha role gives me room to take on a guiding and supportive role, which I think is important too.

I also want someone who enjoys the same sorts of things I do… not exactly everything because who wants a replica of themselves? But someone who will share in the things that I enjoy most… whether it is in the capacity of doing the same things or being supportive.

There also has to be strong chemistry… playful, fun, flirty banter keeps the relationship young and on its toes. Someone who can dish it out, but can also take it you don’t have to be always right. I also need someone who speaks their mind and isn’t afraid of doing so.

One more thought – I don’t believe in the concept of someone who “grows on you over time”… Moss grows on you over time, fungus grows on you over time.. the only things that get better with time are wine and cheese but I already have a liking towards both to begin with. Some have described me as kind, cold, and caring (what a mix) when it comes to relationships but that’s only because I know what I want and if it doesn’t fit, why prolong it? I respect the other person way too much to put them or me through prolonged sentiment, but I DO REALIZE a relationship takes WORK! Of which I give it my ALL.

If things sound good to you and you would like to talk more, message me. I hope to hear from you soon.
Terry

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Subject Lines from the FIRST DAY of the profile being up

  • Hey
  • hello
  • dessert flower
  • You sound sweet
  • HI THERE
  • hi
  • Hello Stranger
  • Buenas Noches
  • sigh
  • fun
  • HELLO
  • hello
  • good morning
  • hi
  • howudoinnnnnnnnnnnn! lol
  • hello beautiful!
  • hi there
  • HI
  • Hi
  • good morning
  • hmmmmmmmm sounds fun
  • hmmmmmm
  • OK!!!! Hoses are Grey and
  • 66
  • hi
  • Fancy poem
  • hello
  • A friendly Hello
  • Hello
  • Hi!
  • what shall I say?
  • hi
  • hey
  • hey there
  • hi
  • HI
  • hey
  • the poet
  • nice profile
  • hi there
  • hello
  • hi im david
  • i never know what to say but …
  • hello
  • hi
  • re
  • —-
  • hi
  • hi
  • hey there
  • tequila shot
  • hello there
  • : )
  • your pretty
  • hi
  • roses
  • cofee or tea works for me
  • omg
  • jingly subject line here
  • hi
  • cute dog
  • chat

What can we learn from this simple experiment?

Women have more bullsh*t to deal with when trying to attract a man online than I ever realized.

Ultimately I’ve decided that even though most of these guys had no idea how to draw a woman’s response, I hadn’t created a profile of a girl who’s interesting enough to really draw the attention of men of higher quality.

If your initial opener is simple, sincere, and not the EXACT same as every other guy’s, you’ll likely stand out.

If you’re going to date girls through an online website just make sure you DON’T sound like all of the above examples.

~ Robby

Quote: Beautiful woman are invisible.

I’ll take this opportunity to post photos of hot chicks.

You’re welcome.

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If you have a good Dating Quote for my blog, please email me! Questions@FullOfHateAndReadyToDate.com

~ Robby