Here is a recent question I helped answer on GirlsAskGuys.com, tell me what you think of my answer below in the comments:
Why do girls feel the need to play with them selves during anal sex?
I don’t know if I speak for all guys or not but this bugs me because I look at it as a big sign of disrespect. When I’m fucking a girl and she reaches down to play with herself that’s like saying you don’t know how fuck and I can do a better job by myself. If it’s a pleasure thing I think I would prefer her to ask me to do it then to have her do it her self.
It’s your insecurities that are making you think that it’s your job to take care of every single sexual need your girlfriend has, and it’s kinda ridiculous to take it personally when a girl touches herself. Any extra pleasure that she can derive during sex, whether from herself, or her fingers, or your fingers, or a gag in her mouth… what ever… is a good thing. 😀
Worrying about whether you’re being disrespected is just an immature ego response. Develop a little empathy and modesty and you’ll realize that not everything in this world is about you.
Added Note To Myself: I must have been in a grumpy mood when I first wrote this… haha!
I never said it was all about me and maybe you’re right It might just be an ego thing. But I like giving girls pleasure in any one way shape or form but I look at it as I’m not the one doing it, she is, and then it turns me off.
Think of it like this… you’re sharing sexy times together. It’s not about taking over someone’s experience, it’s about sharing. That’s how people have web cam sex… they share the experience without trying to own the experience, know what I mean? Trust me, when a girl is touching herself and she’s thinking of you, that’s a total win! 😀
Maybe I was just brought up different cause I was always told that it’s a guys job is to make a women feel happy as possible no matter what and that’s what I’m trying to do.
I totally get what you’re saying, and I felt that same way for years when I was younger. But now that I’m older and I’ve had long talks with women about this I’ve come to realize that we can’t EVER make ourselves RESPONSIBLE for how our partner FEELS. This just means that it’s your job to maintain your own feelings, and how you treat your woman.
And it’s HER responsibility for how she FEELS and how she treats you. Being open and honest, etc.
But if you waste energy trying to be responsible for her feelings you’re ALWAYS going to lose, AND she’ll resent you for it the entire time.
Yea you might be right.
After reading my short response to his question do you think I missed something? Please add it to my comments below!
Also, here’s one more photo, just because you’ve been kind enough to read this far.